Taming the "Back to School" Transition

The shift from shorts to sweaters, and from beach balls to footballs signals an end to summer and the beginning of school days. For many children, school days are filled with fond memories, fun, and the excitement of meeting new friends. However, for some, the thought of going back to school can cause feelings of anxiety. It can also add further stress to families who are trying to juggle many activities. Children that may have a hard time communicating about their fears presents yet another challenge to parents. To help ease the transition from summer to school, CIGNA Behavioral Health offers some tips for families.

Causes of "Back to School" Anxiety
In order to help your child ease back into school days, it's important to first identify what situations may cause them to feel anxious. Here are some of the most common factors that can lead to 'back to school' anxiety.

• Fear of the unknown. Kids starting school for the first time or transitioning to a new school may experience stress if they are not sure what to expect.
• Social concern. Children who have a hard time making friends may be concerned about being alone in the coming year. They may also be afraid of being bullied. This is particularly true for kids who have been teased or excluded in prior school years.
• Making the grade. Students who have excelled in the past may be worried that they won't be able to maintain the same level of performance. Often, kids who do well suffer more anxiety than those who struggle because they put more pressure on themselves.
• Fear of failure. Kids who have had challenges in the previous year may be nervous about how they will measure up in the upcoming school year.

How Parents Can Help

• Talk about your first day of school experiences. Whether good or bad, kids want to know their feelings are not unique. It will comfort them to know that many people are nervous about starting school or moving to a new school. Sharing feelings and experiences can help calm nerves by making your child aware that you understand their concerns.
• Get involved. Being involved in your child's life at school can open up the lines of communication so you are better aware of how your child is doing academically and socially. Volunteer to help with school activities and get to know your child's teachers.
• Set realistic expectations for your child. Help your child recognize his or her unique talents and work with them to establish realistic and reachable goals for the school year.
• Encourage children to get involved in school activities. It's easier for kids to make friends if they have something in common. Encourage your child to participate in extracurricular activities - play in the band, join the drama club, sing in the choir, take an art class or engage in a team sport. They'll make new friends, gain confidence and find something they can enjoy about school.
• Take time to get your child adjusted to the new routine. A few weeks before school starts, have your child 'practice' their school day routine. Get your child used to getting up earlier and getting ready to start their day.
• Talk to your child about issues they might experience in the upcoming school year. For example, discuss how your children might deal with bullies, or how to deal with alcohol or drugs. This can help prepare your children to deal with difficult situations. Let your children know ahead of time that you are open to talk about any subject matter that may arise. Set a time each day to talk with your children about their school day.
• Help keep your child healthy. If your child isn't feeling their best, it can add to their stress level. Make sure you child gets an adequate amount of sleep and physical activity each day, and that they eat a healthy diet. Make sure their immunizations are up to date and talk to your health care provider if you have any concerns about their health.
• If your child is starting a new school... Visit the school and make sure your child knows at least one person at the new school: Take your child to their new school beforehand so that they will not be so overwhelmed on the first day. If possible, meet the teacher. Ask for a class list, particularly if your child is starting kindergarten, and arrange a play date in advance with one or two children from your kids' class so that they see a familiar face on the first day of school.

School does not have to be a time filled with fear and hesitation. By being involved in your child's life, you will be more likely to notice if things start to go wrong. If you feel your child needs help beyond what you can offer, contact your doctor or mental health professional.

This material is provided by CIGNA Behavioral Health, Inc. for informational/educational purposes only. It is not intended as medical/clinical advice. Only a healthcare provider can make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment plan. For more information about your behavioral health benefits, you can call the member services or behavioral health telephone number listed on your healthcare identification card.